By definition, a phobia is an irrational and excessive fear of something or a situation.  As I’ve mentioned before, there are only two instincts that we are born with: 1) Our sudden reaction to a loud BANG, or sound; and 2) Our immediate effort to regain balance when we fall or stumble.  Everything else is learned from our environment, and naturally this includes phobias.

Something that truly amazed me years ago, is when I found out that when the movie Jaws came out in 1975, people who were hundreds of miles away from the ocean were suddenly afraid of taking a bath.  Though it sounds ridiculous, when our unconscious (or imagination) gets infected with overwhelming fear, it generalises that fear and generates it into a phobia as a defence mechanism.  This results in extreme irrational and life altering phobias.  They are considered to be irrational because it all happens in our very creative imagination which is irrelevant to actual reality.  As the old saying goes, imagination is far more powerful than will power.

The great news is that since phobias are learned, they can be unlearned.  Thanks to Neuro Linguistic Programming and Thought Field Therapy, most phobias can be cured today within an hour.  These are two mind technologies that I regularly use, which have had positive life altering results for many of my Clients.  In fact, I recently helped a Client who had a terrible fear of flying and here are her words after her flights:

“Just landed Taymour, the flight was much more pleasurable than usual.  What a difference, thank you !”  [Flying Phobia - outbound]

“Another enjoyable flight, can’t believe it ! Thanks again” [Flying Phobia - inbound]

All that shift in less than an hour.  Here’s what another Client with severe Claustrophobia said after a 20 minute session:

“I was so completely overwhelmed that a problem I had suffered from on a daily basis for 17 years could be cured in 10 minutes.  After leaving you my children had 4 rides in the lift with their mum, something they had never done before Saturday, in their lives!!! I can not thank you enough.”

Times have surely changed, and severe phobias that have held us back from progress and happiness can be cured in an hour.  As recently demonstrated by Paul McKenna on GMTV (whom I assist on his seminars).

Until Next Time……Live Don’t Just Exist.

Call now and free yourself, or a loved one from their phobias.

Tel:  +44 (0)207 602 5477

taymour@guiding-light.net

“Love pain” is the commonest psychological trauma and probably affects millions of people in the UK at any given time. It is a universal experience . Listen to the lyrics of  most popular songs and you will find that this distressing condition is one of the most common topics. It has also inspired numerous plays, books and films.

“Love pain” is really just the same as any other trauma in terms of its symptoms . In fact it can be  considered as a form of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). The symptoms are anxiety, depression, insomnia and constant rumination about what went wrong in the relationship.   Some sufferers find they think constantly about the person they have lost while others discover  that they cannot imagine what their lost lover looks like – a phenomenon which is due to repression of the mental pain.

Many  sufferers, especially females,  turn to  “comfort eating” while others lose their appetite. In the worst cases sufferers commit suicide in an attempt to relieve their mental anguish.

Although losing a lover may not appear to be objectively the worst thing that can happen to an individual, the level of mental pain can actually be worse than following a bereavement.

Most people get over their symptoms in a few weeks while others take months or even years. There are even cases in which people never really get over the trauma and are still having symptoms 30 years later. Love pain can sometimes be the catalyst which triggers more serious mental illness such as agoraphobia and chronic depression.

Until the advent of Thought Field Therapy (TFT) there was no effective treatment for love pain and sufferers simply had to grin and bear it. However TFT can relieve symptoms in minutes. In some cases only a single treatment is required but if the relationship is not totally over and the patient is being continually re-traumatized then the treatment sequence may have to be repeated.

Dr Roger Callahan ,inventor of TFT. is also an expert on relationships and love pain and has written books on this subject. He also believes that untreated love pain can lead to a condition called amourophobia – literally a phobia or fear of further relationships. According to Callahan amourophobia is actually the commonest phobia. Amourophobia sufferers – usually female – will often sabotage their own relationships when they start to get serious in an attempt to avoid the pain and hurt of a future rejection.

CASE HISTORY No 1

Helen, a 29 year old single parent from Edinburgh, broke up with her boyfriend Tom three years ago. Since then her weight has ballooned  due to comfort eating and is she is now 5 stone overweight. Recently Helen attended a lecture / demonstration on Thought Field Therapy by Dr Colin Barron,who works at Glasgow’s Nuffield Hospital.

Towards the end of the evening Dr Barron asked for volunteers from the audience to come forward  for treatment and Helen put up her hand. She explained that she could not stop eating and even ate when she wasn’t hungry. Dr Barron immediately asked her if she had suffered a trauma in the past few years. She broke down sobbing as she explained how she had split up with her boyfriend and could not get him out of her mind.

Dr Barron then asked her to rate her level of mental  distress on a scale of 1 to 10. It was a 10.  Dr Barron then took Helen through a tapping sequence designed to relieve trauma symptoms. Within 7 minutes Helen’s anxiety had vanished and she was down to a  1 on the 1-10 scale. At this point she broke into a smile and laughed ,”I  am not thinking about him any more. I can’t believe it,” she said as the astonished audience broke into applause. Dr Barron then treated her comfort eating with another tapping sequence.

Helen is now eating normally and the pounds are coming off.

CASE HISTORY No 2

Alison, a 37 year old businesswoman from  Falkirk, was devastated when her husband left her for a younger woman recently.  She found it hard to sleep at night and when she did she had nightmares She  couldn’t concentrate at  work and she felt anxious and depressed. One day she even had a panic attack while driving .

She went to her G. P.  who put her on a 2 week course of sleeping tablets and  was referred to a clinical psychologist – but there was a 2 month waiting time for an appointment.

One day ,in desperation, she made an appointment to see Dr Colin Barron who works as a medically qualified hypnotherapist at Glasgow’s Nuffield Hospital. When she arrived for her appointment Dr Barron explained that she would be treated with a technique called Thought Field Therapy which is faster and more effective than hypnosis.

Within 10 minutes of starting treatment Alison felt much calmer. After treating the trauma of the break up, Dr Barron then gave her a treatment for depression which worked in minutes.

At the next appointment Alison was symptom – free. She was sleeping well and was no longer plagued by nightmares and panic attacks. She also reported that she had started dating again.

“ It is hard to believe that such a dramatic change could occur so quickly,” she said. “My G.P. was very sympathetic but there was really nothing he could do to help me. Thought Field Therapy has given me my life back!”.

Contact Details for Dr Barron

Website : www.colinbarron.co.uk

E Mail : colin.barron@ukonline.co.uk

Telephone : 01786 821019

How many times have you heard the term “panic attack”? Over the years the term has increased in usage as more and more people are suffering from overwhelming panic and are being driven to despair. In my client work, I’m often asked “When panic attacks, what’s the defence?”

So what is a panic attack?

Although there are lots of clinical definitions, in client work I’ve heard the term used to describe symptoms ranging from mild anxiety to nauseous hyperventilation. Sometimes leaving the client struggling to breathe, the symptoms spiral on top of themselves creating even more panic.

Often the symptoms cause clients to stay at home, unwilling to leave the house “just in case” they have a panic attack. In their attempt to reduce their symptoms, clients often make things worse by staying within the comfort zone of their home. The thought of going outside becomes fraught with the danger that an episode of panic will overwhelm them.

When I see a client, they often describe me as their last resort, at the end of their tether not knowing what else to do.

So what triggers the panic?

I’ve had clients reporting a diverse spectrum of situations ranging from supermarket queues to traffic lights, all causing panic in one form or another.

Underneath the panic there are many neurological and physiological processes going on, few of which I’m knowledgeable enough or qualified to mention.

The basic flight or flight response comes into play with the body releasing adrenaline in copious amounts to deal with a perceived threat, this overload being the cause of the nauseousness or shaking.

My interest is in the client’s perception of the threat. What is it that causes the release of adrenaline in the first place?

In my approach to the treatment of panic attacks, I often use the NLP technique of eliciting the internal strategy, finding the mental process that the client goes through to produce their panic.

After asking the client what I have to do in my mind to produce the feelings of panic, I am often told exactly what process to go through to produce panic. When I run this strategy through my own head I can usually  get some anxiety going and the whole problem becomes very obvious.

For example, I am often told that in order for the panic to start I would have to ask myself a question like “what would happen if I was suddenly to take ill right now?”.

Since the brain has a very useful habit of answering every question put to it, scary pictures often pop up in the client’s head, followed by bad feelings, which are then reinforced by even scarier questions. This process loops around and around until the client either makes the questions so ridiculous that they stop, or they are distracted by something else. Throughout this process, adrenaline is building up and producing the feelings of panic.

This by no means is the only way people can produce panic but I’ve found it’s a very common one. Merely making a client aware of this process that they often perform in microseconds often results in them getting control of the process. Altering the tone of their questioning internal voice can also short circuit the process well before the adrenaline has flooded the system and the panic is unleashed.

Adding a bit of humour also works a treat, you can’t panic while you’re laughing.

My own personal favourite, which I use when I find myself becoming anxious, is to remember Dad’s Army’s Corporal Jones shouting “Don’t panic Mr. Mainwaring, they don’t like it up em!”. That tends to shift my state!

So you may be reading this thinking well that’s all well and good for other people but that doesn’t sound like me. How true, this doesn’t apply to everyone but we haven’t finished yet.

Meridian Energy Therapy in whatever form its presented can also relieve panic attacks. Thought Field Therapy (TFT) has very high success rates with clients, often used as the first line of approach by therapists. Simply tapping points on energy meridians in a specific sequence can eliminate the panic symptoms and deal with the cause. Any good TFT practitioner is able to quickly and easily run clients through this process.

So there’s hope yet for the panic attack sufferer. If you are presently having any sort of problem with anxiety I highly recommend finding an experienced practitioner of NLP or Meridian Energy Therapy and release yourself from the grip of this very irrational but very real condition.

Copyright : Adrian Brown © 2007

Contact Details:

Adrian Brown ACMA C.P.AMT C.Hyp

www.beyondlimits.co.uk

Tel: 0870 478 9145 or 07908 465772

Email: info@beyondlimits.co.uk

Dr. Roger Callahan

Many of you have probably seen the likes of Paul McKenna demonstrate a bizarre tapping treatment on TV for anxiety, fear, phobias and even compulsion.  This unusual tapping technique is called Thought Field Therapy.  Created by Dr. Roger Callahan, read more: www.tftrx.com

I’m not going to get into the scientific genius behind it and bore you, but I am going to ask you to try the following

sequence when you’re feeling anxious, overwhelmed or worried.

First things first, notice how anxious you are, think about it and focus on the feeling.  On a scale of 1-10, (10 being very anxious and worried and 1 being it doesn’t bother me that much, or I can hardly focus on it) Where would you rate your anxiety.  Once you have given your feeling a rating, do the following as you keep thinking about that anxious feeling:

1) Tap the side of your hand (the Karate chop area) about 20 times. Then switch hands and to the same to the other hand.

2) Tap under your eye 10 times

3) Tap 4″ under your arm pit – 10 times.

4) Tap 2 inches under your collarbone (chest) 10 times.

Now (9 Gamut Sequence):

Tap between your tiny finger knuckle and ring finger knuckle - about 1 inch towards your wrist continuously as you do the following & keeping your head still.

a) Close eyes

b) Open eyes

c) Look down to the right

d) Look down to the left

e) Rotate your eyes in a full clockwise circle

f) Rotate your eyes in a full anti-clockwise circle

g) Hum a few bars of “Happy Birthday”

h) Count 1 to 5

i)  Hum a few bars of “Happy Birthday” again

Now stop tapping your hand and repeat the above steps 2 to 4.

Then notice the change that may have occurred.  Rate your anxiety from 1-10 again.  Repeat accordingly.

© Dr. Roger Callahan  – Tapping The Healer Within.

TFT is one of the most effective and remarkable methods to deal with a variety of emotional challenges ranging from past traumas to phobias and anger.

Here’s what a recent client said after a TFT session: “Thank you so much Taymour, I feel fantastic !! It seems like a huge weight has been lifted off me & that dark cloud has disappeared”

Honesty has always been a policy that I’ve relied on when making a difference with my clients. I’ve been a personal coach for almost five years now and time and time again, I’ve helped my clients by teaching them powerful and life changing techniques that have contributed to their growth and success. This is not to say that I don’t use such tools and techniques myself; they are always there in the background helping me cope and overcome my own challenges. Reframing a situation for the positive, adjusting my own internal dialogue and even being aware of what I visualise with my overactive mind.

Like all of you out there, life has tested me with its challenges and hurdles; and it continues to do so on a regular basis. I suppose every challenge has helped me become a stronger person and better at my work, as I can understand and empathise with my clients more easily. I am writing this article because of an experience that I went through recently that truly tested my attitude, mental discipline and the many mind techniques that I regularly recommend to my clients. I suppose you could say that I was caught off guard and life pitched me a curve ball (pardon the Baseball expression) that I had to deal with.

Without boring you with the details, I came to realise that:

a) The TFT Algorithms I use are extremely effective. They calmed me enough to think straight and take necessary action.

b) I (and many of you out there) can be highly resourceful when it’s necessary. It’s all in the attitude. I kept thinking that: “I need to fix this, no matter what.” Rather than: Oh my God, oh my God, oh my God…

And c) I was uncomfortably reminded of the fact that imagination is far more powerful than intellect or common sense. So I had to be extra mindful of the power of my thoughts and their impact on my body and mind. .

My logical/sensible mind was very calm and collected. It knew that this problem in its core could be remedied easily. On the other hand, my creative mind was super-active with terrifying thoughts of “What if!”. My breathing became shallow, my heart began to palpitate, I was sweating and feeling horrid with fear. My emotional and physical state was being overtaken with daunting thoughts that were not happening in actuality – they were just thoughts that I was beginning to unfortunately believe. All this in a matter of just one to two minutes. As this unpleasant drama unfolded, a voice somewhere in my head whispered gently: “BREATHE…You can handle this. Just do what you usually ask your clients when they’re faced with a similar challenge”. Luckily I listened to that voice of higher wisdom and began to walk my talk once again. I did what works. I first became aware of my thoughts in detail, and changed them for the better by visualising myself taking the steps needed to fix my problem and see it through. I went over that empowering movie in my mind repeatedly and acted right away. In stead of giving into my fears (which we all have and I’m no exception), I collapsed them with cleaner thoughts. Thoughts that were a cocktail of positive and helpful internal dialogue coupled with better pictures and film clips in my mind. After all, you are what you think; and what you systematically think will result in what you believe and act on a daily basis. Remember, for something to happen in your reality, it must first happen in your imagination.

Although the above experience has been simplified to make some focal points; it was also very humbling to go through. I was reminded of my own fragility and the importance of being the master of your own mind (thoughts and imaginations), rather than its slave. It is terribly easy to give into bad thoughts and follow their deceitful trail only to be left emotionally wrecked and physically drained. I can even appreciate the effects of anxiety and panic more than ever when clients describe them to me, as I’ve gone to the edge and stared into the abyss except I didn’t wait for the abyss to stare back at me. Nevertheless, as the old saying goes: “Life throws you only what it knows you can handle”, and in hind sight, things turned out for the best. Just look at this article as one the positive outcomes of a lesson learned.

The ancient Zoroastrian religion is based on three principals: Good Thought, Good Words and Good Deeds – in that order. Reiterating the importance and power of thoughts, this experience educated me once more to monitor and control my own in order to better my words (internal as well as external) and to alter my actions for the better.

The fundamental key is to discipline our fertile minds to exercise constructive thoughts that can be mastered through repetition and habit. I believe it’s all about realising what doesn’t work and letting it go; to discover what does and embrace it. In essence, it’s quite easy and simple to do. The conscious and positive conditioning of our minds is the keystone that can hold it all together as we carry on building our lives into edifices of pride and happiness.

Until Next Time……….Live, Don’t Just Exist!

Call now to book an appointment

Tel:  +44 (0)207 602 5477  taymour@guiding-light.net