OK. We all know that a big part of helping yourself evolve and grow is to set goals. In fact, success is the achievement of your goals. Chances are, if you ask ten people to give you a definition for success, you’ll get ten different answers. Success is highly subjective and everybody has their own version: lots of money, a fancy car, a big house, a fulfilling career, a stable family, peace of mind etc..etc..
So let’s look at goals for a second. What goals should you set? Who says? Are your goals dependent on your environment? Your social circles? Or are your goals decided by your higher self who seeks to enrich your life and give it purpose and substance. The most important question that has to be addressed when setting your goals is NOT “How can I achieve my goal?” but rather, “Why should I achieve this?” Or “What would achieving this do for me?”
This question is the kernel of your untapped motivation, for it will reveal the driving force behind your chosen path. Answering the “How” part of what you need to do, and deciding on the strategies of action are the easy part.
Here are a few points to consider when setting goals:
1) Know who you truly are and make sure what you set out to do complements the real you. Many of my clients change their goals after our initial session because they realise that they were trying to be someone other that their true self. That path is always doomed. Just be yourself and set goals that are congruent with your values and moral compass.
2) It’s much better to aim for a “good enough” result, rather than a “perfect” one. The “good enough” result usually ends up being better than the perfect one, particularly if our quest for perfection has stopped us from producing any result at all.
3) Create a running movie in your mind, and see your goal happening. For something to happen in your real world it must first happen in your imaginary world.
4) Approach failure as life’s feedback on what not to do. If you become more mindful of this, you will also become more flexible towards your options and try every possible way until you achieve what you set out to do. If your strategy and approach is failing, you’re NOT. Simply change your strategy until it starts happening for you.
5) Break down your goals into easy to do daily tasks that can add up. Remember, little changes yield big results. “A jug fills drop by drop” The Buddha.
Until Next Time……….Live, Don’t Just Exist!
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