By definition, a phobia is an irrational and excessive fear of something or a situation.  As I’ve mentioned before, there are only two instincts that we are born with: 1) Our sudden reaction to a loud BANG, or sound; and 2) Our immediate effort to regain balance when we fall or stumble.  Everything else is learned from our environment, and naturally this includes phobias.

Something that truly amazed me years ago, is when I found out that when the movie Jaws came out in 1975, people who were hundreds of miles away from the ocean were suddenly afraid of taking a bath.  Though it sounds ridiculous, when our unconscious (or imagination) gets infected with overwhelming fear, it generalises that fear and generates it into a phobia as a defence mechanism.  This results in extreme irrational and life altering phobias.  They are considered to be irrational because it all happens in our very creative imagination which is irrelevant to actual reality.  As the old saying goes, imagination is far more powerful than will power.

The great news is that since phobias are learned, they can be unlearned.  Thanks to Neuro Linguistic Programming and Thought Field Therapy, most phobias can be cured today within an hour.  These are two mind technologies that I regularly use, which have had positive life altering results for many of my Clients.  In fact, I recently helped a Client who had a terrible fear of flying and here are her words after her flights:

“Just landed Taymour, the flight was much more pleasurable than usual.  What a difference, thank you !”  [Flying Phobia - outbound]

“Another enjoyable flight, can’t believe it ! Thanks again” [Flying Phobia - inbound]

All that shift in less than an hour.  Here’s what another Client with severe Claustrophobia said after a 20 minute session:

“I was so completely overwhelmed that a problem I had suffered from on a daily basis for 17 years could be cured in 10 minutes.  After leaving you my children had 4 rides in the lift with their mum, something they had never done before Saturday, in their lives!!! I can not thank you enough.”

Times have surely changed, and severe phobias that have held us back from progress and happiness can be cured in an hour.  As recently demonstrated by Paul McKenna on GMTV (whom I assist on his seminars).

Until Next Time……Live Don’t Just Exist.

Call now and free yourself, or a loved one from their phobias.

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I recently had a Client who had a severe phobia of spiders, and as soon as I would bring up the subject of spiders, she’d burst into tears of fright.  We both knew there was no spider in the room, but her ability to visualise was so sharply tuned, that her imagination overrided common sense and logic.  In fact we as humans are exactly like that.  We think, we imagine, we visualise and then we act.  Our behaviours are seldom governed by sense and logic.  The fact of the matter is that our behaviour is dictated by our emotions, which in turn are fuelled by our imagination.  A classic stereotypical example is a woman who has credit card debts, and cannot resist the sexy pair of shoes in the window.  This also applies to men with a gadget fetish who just have to have the latest gizmo.  When we see a nice pair of shoes in a magazine, we create a happy mental picture of ourselves looking sexy and confident as we walk down the street wearing those shoes.  The emotions stirred are then so pleasing and intense that we cannot wait to buy the pair of shoes to achieve the mental image we previously created in our mind.

Imagination is such a fundamental driving force that for anything to happen in reality, it must first happen in our imagination and ability to visualize.  If you take a moment and look around the room you’re in; every single thing in your room was first created in someone’s imagination.  I recently read a wonderful piece of advice that said: “Don’t just see with your eyes, but see through your eyes.”

“I couldn’t see the wood for the trees” is another wonderful saying that brushes up on our visual modality.  There are lots and lots of times that we get so caught up in our patterns of thinking that we fail to see other options at our disposal. We only see what’s in front of us and not what’s ahead of us.  Time and time again, I’ve had Clients who feel they’re stuck in a rut when in truth the problem lied in their visual perspective.  Unsurprisingly, this limited pattern of thinking creates stress, anxiety, lack of direction and feeling confused about what to do when faced with a challenging situation.  Furthermore, we end up loosing direction and focus about the overall bigger picture.  In other words, “what you see is what you get” and that is entirely dependent on what YOU decide to focus on.  We tend to focus on the worse case scenario in fear of it happening, yet the rule of thumb is: whatever you resist, you persist.  We visualise what could go wrong, and paralyze ourselves with fear.  Sometimes the best thing we can do is also the simplest thing.  Since we do visualise and imagine before we take action, it is necessary to zoom out of a current situation in order to get a clearer picture of where we were, where we are and were we wish to go with our lives.  As soon as that clarity is gained, our unconscious will begin to shed light on our dilemma and offer a variety of options that we wouldn’t have thought of otherwise.  It is only then that we can zoom back in to take the actions needed.

Being in the position I am, I don’t have the luxury or right to tell my Clients what to do.  I work under the notion that my Clients already know what they want and how to get it, they’re just unaware of that fact due to their habits and thinking patters.  By shifting their perspective ever so slightly through a series of zooming out, zooming in questions, my Clients gain the most paramount cornerstone to constructive change – awareness.

Try This:

Think of something that makes you feel frustrated and unsure of what to do next. Now ask yourself the following questions and answer as honestly as you can.

• What is the real problem?
• What possible options can I consider that will serve my best interest?
• What is the best option?
• What do I need to do less of?
• What do I need to do more of?
• What do I need to stop doing?
• What do I need to start doing?

These are just a few of the many questions and approaches one can take.  The more honest you are with yourself the quicker clarity you’ll gain.  Let me also emphasise the importance of doing what you truly want rather than what your society, colleagues or family expects.  It is vital that you consider your own interest and well being when making an important decision.  A recent Client of mine was very confused about his career options.  I simply asked him to describe himself working and being very happy and exited about it.  My question was, “don’t tell me what you’re doing; all I want you to do is describe the nature of your work”.  Within 10 seconds he began to tell me exactly what he was doing, the type of people he worked with, the hours, right down to the location and industry.  We carried on planning and setting little goals for him to undertake to achieve the life he wanted.  When we decide from the heart, and understand the reasons why, the “how?” part becomes the easiest.

Sometimes it’s necessary to zoom out in order to zoom back in with the clarity to take the right decision and action.  Think of a camera that zooms out to provide the viewer with the bigger picture of what they’re seeing, only to zoom back in with more awareness and understanding.

Until Next Time……Live Don’t Just Exist.

Call now to book an appointment

Tel:  +44 (0)207 602 5477

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Yes!  We aren’t just taught how to hold our cutlery properly by our parents when we eat, we even learn how and when to be afraid.  The good news is that such installations can be deleted from our mental programming.  Just because our imagination can be creative, we don’t always have to be a slave to it.

Mark Twain once said: “I have been through some terrible things in my life, and some of them actually happened.” At the end of the day, we are the one’s who run and control our own minds and not the other way around.  Let us learn from this little girl and reconnect with our inner child and laugh hysterically in the face of fear.

Until Next Time……Live Don’t Just Exist.

Call now to book an appointment and delete your fears to live a freer life.

Tel:  +44 (0)207 602 5477

taymour@guiding-light.net