Spring Clean Your Life

June 11, 2010

The term Spring Clean is rooted in the idea of thoroughly cleaning your home to welcome the coming Spring equinox that triggers new life.  The start of Spring is a very special time indeed as the days will get longer, the weather will begin to shift, the grass will grow, the flowers will bloom and new life begins.  In fact, the Persians celebrate their new year at the exact moment of this equinox to celebrate new life.

This momentous occasion also provides us humans with another chance to go into our mental closets and filter out accumulated and unwanted junk from the past.  Past demons, bad habits, limiting beliefs that keep governing our actions, anxieties and insecurities are all acquired through our life experiences; we’re not born with them.  And, since our mind is no different to a computer that has been programmed with the software of life experiences, it can be re-programmed to think differently and consequently behave differently also.  Remember: Your Past Does NOT Equal Your Future.

Sometimes all that is needed is a tiny shift in our attitude, our outlook or our strategies to yield the biggest positive change that we’ve been longing for.  What we visualize in our mind, what we repeatedly say to ourselves and even our body language are all contributing factors to the subjective understanding of our lives.  Our reality is always subjective and can be unjust to the actuality that we neglect to appreciate.  As the famous NLP presupposition goes, the map is not the territory.  How you’ve unconsciously programmed yourself to understand the world around you is not always an accurate perspective - there are other facets to see the world through!  There’s a wonderful saying that I read the other day, it said: “We don’t see the world the way it is, but rather the way we are.”

Let me just finish off by saying that sometimes, it’s not just a spring clean that our internal and external lives require; but a careful and honest re-evaluation of where we’re going with our lives and the goals we’ve set.

“Carefully watch your thoughts, for they become your words. Manage and watch your words, for they will become your actions. Consider and judge your actions, for they have become your habits.  Acknowledge and watch your habits, for they shall become your values. Understand and embrace your values, for they become your destiny.”  Mahatma Gandhi


Until Next Time…….­Live Don’t Just Exist.

Call now and book an appointment to kick start your Spring Clean.

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Soul Retrieval – The Journey back to wholeness

June 11, 2010

Written By : Dawn Paul – A practising Shaman of the Inca Lineage. She spent the last seven years searching for the perfect healing method and was able to learn the amazing healing methods of the Q’ero of Peru. She had vision at Machu Picchu, that lead her on this path’ and to the Q’ero, who are the surviving keepers of Inca knowledge.

As a Shamanic healer of the Inca tradition, a significant part of my work involves journeying into the Lower World in order to bring back to my clients their lost soul parts – a healing method called Soul Retrieval. Soul loss sounds terrifying, but it is extremely common and all of us have suffered soul loss in some form or another, either in this or a former lifetime.

In my view, true healing cannot take place until soul loss is rectified.  Soul loss usually occurs during situations of high trauma, a life – threatening accident or illness for example, losing a loved one unexpectedly, seeing a parent leave home, or most commonly, sexual abuse. However, soul loss can also occur for “lesser” and less dramatic incidents, such as hearing some bad news, feeling unloved by a parent, or going through a nasty divorce.

So, how does soul loss manifest itself? How does someone know that they are affected by this? In my experience, clients tend to make statements such as, “ I don’t feel all here” “ I feel lost” “I feel part of me is missing” “ A part of me died when she died” “I feel like I am constantly searching for something, but I don’t know what it is”– all these statements indicate soul loss to me. Sometimes, clients tend to go down what I call “rabbit holes” – they have suffered soul loss to some extent, but they do not associate the feeling with themselves, so I hear such things as “ I just can’t find the right spiritual path,” “ I am desperate to find my natural parents so I know who I am,” or “ I can never seem to find the right job/man/woman” – so subconsciously, these people know that something isn’t right, but mistakenly are looking outside of themselves. What they are really looking for is their whole self.

What I have come to understand with this work is that soul loss actually seems to occur as a form of protection mechanism. Sadly, many of us have read magazines articles written by women who have been seriously sexually assaulted. Most of the time the event is described like this “…. the strangest thing happened while the abuse was taking place, ….it was as if I was looking down upon myself, I could see it all taking place below me, but I was curiously detached from it.” This is actually describing the process of the soul leaving the physical body, because it did not want to experience what was happening to the physical body at that time. What then appears to happen is that part of the soul returns to the body, but part goes to a place of safety. My own philosophy on this is that firstly it may perhaps be too difficult for the person to cope if all the soul returned to the body, with all the memory of what happened, and secondly, the soul has realised, maybe for the first time, that it is not entirely safe within the physical body, so part of it leaves for the safety of the Lower World.

Now, I tend to be very careful mentioning the words “Lower World” to my clients. It almost always causes consternation – “What?!! You mean part of my soul is in HELL??” they cry. But this is not the case at all, in fact, it is quite the opposite. Shamanic traditions differ, but most work on the basis of three worlds. The Lower World (the earthly domain) the Middle World (“this” world) and the Upper World (the spirit and heavenly domains), which are different dimensions. So what seems to happen is that the soul parts tend to flee to the safety of Pachamama, – Mother Earth.

I journey to the Lower World on behalf of my client and visit the four chambers of the soul. I retrieve the lost soul part and a gift and sometimes an animal, bird, or insect will want to come back with me in order to be of assistance in some way. For example a butterfly may come back, to teach the person how to fly through life more lightly, how to taste the sweet nectar of life, to bring colour into the person life.

The second part of the session –“Mesa Proxy” is immensely healing for the client – we find out more on such a deep level and I never fail to marvel how connected everything turns out to be.  Clients often realise such great truths about themselves and seem to be given the tools they need in order to move forward with their lives. I always feel truly blessed to be able to assist my clients in this way.

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Goals Goals Goals

June 11, 2010

OK.  We all know that a big part of helping yourself evolve and grow is to set goals.  In fact, success is the achievement of your goals.  Chances are, if you ask ten people to give you a definition for success, you’ll get ten different answers.  Success is highly subjective and everybody has their own version:  lots of money, a fancy car, a big house, a fulfilling career, a stable family, peace of mind etc..etc..

So let’s look at goals for a second.  What goals should you set?  Who says?  Are your goals dependent on your environment? Your social circles?  Or are your goals decided by your higher self who seeks to enrich your life and give it purpose and substance.  The most important question that has to be addressed when setting your goals is NOT “How can I achieve my goal?” but rather, “Why should I achieve this?”  Or “What would achieving this do for me?”

This question is the kernel of your untapped motivation, for it will reveal the driving force behind your chosen path.  Answering the “How” part of what you need to do, and deciding on the strategies of action are the easy part.

Here are a few points to consider when setting goals:

1)      Know who you truly are and make sure what you set out to do complements the real you.  Many of my clients change their goals after our initial session because they realise that they were trying to be someone other that their true self.  That path is always doomed.  Just be yourself and set goals that are congruent with your values and moral compass.

2)      It’s much better to aim for a “good enough” result, rather than a “perfect” one. The “good enough” result usually ends up being better than the perfect one, particularly if our quest for perfection has stopped us from producing any result at all.

3)      Create a running movie in your mind, and see your goal happening.  For something to happen in your real world it must first happen in your imaginary world.

4)      Approach failure as life’s feedback on what not to do.  If you become more mindful of this, you will also become more flexible towards your options and try every possible way until you achieve what you set out to do.  If your strategy and approach is failing, you’re NOT.  Simply change your strategy until it starts happening for you.

5)      Break down your goals into easy to do daily tasks that can add up.  Remember, little changes yield big results.  “A jug fills drop by drop” The Buddha.

Until Next Time……….Live, Don’t Just Exist!

Call now to book an appointment and set the right goals for YOU.

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A Simple Anxiety Buster

June 10, 2010
Dr. Roger Callahan

Dr. Roger Callahan

Many of you have probably seen the likes of Paul McKenna demonstrate a bizarre tapping treatment on TV for anxiety, fear, phobias and even compulsion.  This unusual tapping technique is called Thought Field Therapy.  Created by Dr. Roger Callahan, read more: www.tftrx.com

I’m not going to get into the scientific genius behind it and bore you, but I am going to ask you to try the following

sequence when you’re feeling anxious, overwhelmed or worried.

First things first, notice how anxious you are, think about it and focus on the feeling.  On a scale of 1-10, (10 being very anxious and worried and 1 being it doesn’t bother me that much, or I can hardly focus on it) Where would you rate your anxiety.  Once you have given your feeling a rating, do the following as you keep thinking about that anxious feeling:

1) Tap the side of your hand (the Karate chop area) about 20 times. Then switch hands and to the same to the other hand.

2) Tap under your eye 10 times

3) Tap 4″ under your arm pit – 10 times.

4) Tap 2 inches under your collarbone (chest) 10 times.

Now (9 Gamut Sequence):

Tap between your tiny finger knuckle and ring finger knuckle - about 1 inch towards your wrist continuously as you do the following & keeping your head still.

a) Close eyes

b) Open eyes

c) Look down to the right

d) Look down to the left

e) Rotate your eyes in a full clockwise circle

f) Rotate your eyes in a full anti-clockwise circle

g) Hum a few bars of “Happy Birthday”

h) Count 1 to 5

i)  Hum a few bars of “Happy Birthday” again

Now stop tapping your hand and repeat the above steps 2 to 4.

Then notice the change that may have occurred.  Rate your anxiety from 1-10 again.  Repeat accordingly.

© Dr. Roger Callahan  – Tapping The Healer Within.

TFT is one of the most effective and remarkable methods to deal with a variety of emotional challenges ranging from past traumas to phobias and anger.

Here’s what a recent client said after a TFT session: “Thank you so much Taymour, I feel fantastic !! It seems like a huge weight has been lifted off me & that dark cloud has disappeared”

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Material Love

February 14, 2010

One of the most irritating things I find in our post modern, fast paced and hectic world is the irrational emphasis on materialism.  Don’t get me wrong, I am an avid patron of quality and the finer things in life, and I do sometimes express my affection and love for people whom I care for with offerings of substance and worth.

Not because I want to prove my fondness with the value of my gifts, but because I have standards I abide by.

So, here we are with another Valentine’s day.  A day where introverts suddenly have to play the extrovert, a day we forgive and move on, a day we release feelings we’ve bottled for months, a day we unleash our romantic side and a day we spoil our beloved.  Spoil them with flowers, chocolate, cards, balloons, pendants, earrings, watches, diamonds, the latest handbag, perfume, and trips to exotic locations and on and on and on…..   I can carry on into different tangents of satirical complaining, but let me stop with one simple question: Is that all necessary to express your love to your beloved?  Necessary? No.  Perhaps tempting?!

Materialising love can be insulting to the fundamental principles that govern its worth.  Love is not about what you spend, but what you give from your heart and soul.  It’s about sharing moments of truth that you can hold on to and cherish for days to come.  What good is a Cartier watch as a gift when the relationship lacks respect?  Ultimately, Valentines day is a day to go deep inside your heart and share a piece of it with the one you care for.  It doesn’t matter how you share that piece – there is no right or wrong.  But, let me emphasise the essential ingredients to universal love.  Ingredients that compose the cornerstone of every towering love that has withstood the test of time.

They are:

1)    Respect.  Quite simple really.  Can you love someone you don’t respect?  Clearly not.  If you truly respect your beloved, your loyalty becomes effortless.  Your value of their well being and happiness becomes your own.  Even their point of view and opinion will encourage you both to make wiser and better thought out decisions. Most importantly, the way you’ll live your lives as a couple will strengthen against the challenges of life and society when an ever present respect becomes the vehicle that propels your two lives as one.

2)      Honesty.  Since I love asking questions to make my point, here’s another one: Would you be dishonest to someone you respect?  Honesty fuels honesty.  When a certain type of attribute is conveyed, it is generally mirrored back.  I always associate dishonesty with a bacteria that infects a healthy relationship.  Luckily, my next point can sometimes be the antibiotic to such a bacteria.

3)      Communication.  Any emotionally seasoned person would know that relationships have their ups and downs.  We argue, we disagree, we unintentionally hurt one another and at times things can get challenging.  The good news is that the cleanser of such lows is an open line of communication that always includes the sum of the above two points. Mathematically:  Good Communication= Honesty + Respect.  This can also include a gesture, a smile, a caring touch or a sincere embrace.  A very large part of communication is non-verbal.  Notice couples who hold hands, or share an expression that signals affection across a room.  Top that with clean and sincere words of delight and passion, then you can overcome any difficulty.  Remember, words can heal and injure; so use them wisely.

Having said all that, let me also stress that the catalyst to an overall happy relationship is laughter.  Laughter lightens the heart, and most importantly helps the brain produce happy hormones such as endorphins, dopamine and serotonin.  Such chemicals have scientifically been proven to heal and toughen the immune system.  Funnily enough, a recent university research proved that couples in healthy and happy relationships tend to live longer and have better defences against disease.

So this Valentines, make sure that the fundamental factors mentioned above reign your relationship.  The decision on how much you decide to spend and how well you’re going to express your love MUST be sourced from your heart and soul and not just your wallet.

Until Next Time……Live Don’t Just Exist.

Call now for a constructive session for yourself or a loved one.

Tel:  +44 (0)207 602 5477  taymour@guiding-light.net

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Beat Those Winter Blues

January 11, 2010

OK, let’s face it, unless you live on a ski resort or in sunnier climates, winter can be a dismal and depressing season.  The weather is cold and damp, the days are shorter, our bank balances are low thanks to Christmas and there’s an ever present feeling of gloominess in the air.  Even those resolutions that were so enthusiastically made and embraced at the beginning of January seem to be diluted or abandoned into a hibernation of the spirit.  We find comfort in rich foods, our duvets become our best friends in the mornings; even going out with friends becomes a chore.

Does it have to be this way?  Frankly, it can be anything you want it to be.  I recently met a very spiritual artist called Tom who told me that he never works in winter.  Instead, he takes time out to relax, hibernate his creativity, and go within himself.  Incidentally, this reminds me of a wonderful quote from Conversations With God by N Walsch: “If you don’t go within, you end up going without.” Tom told me that he spends his winters reading, travelling (great discounted offers) and getting in touch with what inspires him.  He spends this time revving up his mind to give it all he’s got when spring comes along.  I suppose you could say it’s a great way of managing how his mind works best.

We can learn from Tom because if we focus on how we feel and bare in mind what we want, we can always make the most of our time and season.  True the weather isn’t nice and it seems like an eternity until that next pay packet is due, but we can research what we want via the web (as you are right now).  We may not have the disposable income we did in early December, but we can sort our finances with a sound plan for the next 11 months.  This is our chance to go within our hearts and minds to understand what we really want from life.  Create a feasible and realistic plan.  Research whatever we may need to – a spring break, a new job with company X, or even a project we want to undertake once we know more about it.  Winter offers us that so why not benefit from it rather than loathe it.  See it as an opportune time to take stock and plan for a rewarding year ahead.

The Persians celebrate their new year on the 21st of March because it’s the first day of spring.  A new year with the season that brings new life.  If you think about it, it kind of makes sense really.  If you missed recharging and truly preparing for 2007, the planet and coming seasons still offer you another chance to re-plan your goals.  Why not grab it?

Here are some tips to beat your winter blues:

1-    Take time to give your body what it needs. If it wants rest, listen to it.  If it wants certain foods, give it with moderation.  If it feels like a hot salt bath, then so be it.  Remember, whatever you resist, you persist.

2-    Have a constructive conversation with yourself.  By constructive, I do NOT mean critical and negative laced with guilt.  I mean, find out what you want.  A new career? A new partner? A new hobby?

3-    Research.  Here’s your chance to look into new things to do, and new avenues to explore.  Time and time again I hear people saying: “Yeah, I really should look into that.” And then they never bother – well, don’t think about doing it, just do it!

4-    Mingle and network with new people.  By expanding your social circle, you also sow seeds you can reap in the future.  Someone might know of so and so who’s looking for a new project manager who might be you, or they may have a cousin who’s looking to buy a used car and you want to sell yours.  By socialising more, you open your doors to new opportunities and break the cycle of negative attitude which everyone seems to have.

5-     Travel.  With the winter offers available these days, you can spend a weekend somewhere new doing something you’ve never done before.

6-    Make some extra cash.  I recently met someone who’s a full time secretary and a part time hand model for extra cash.  There are many ways you can earn some extra cash.  Be a film extra, a mystery shopper for a research company, or write an article and have it published in a niche magazine.

There are no right or wrongs to this.  Do what you feel like as long as it’ll help you feel better, happier and busier.  Winter can be as bad or as good as YOU want it to be.

Until Next Time……Live Don’t Just Exist.

Call now for a constructive session to beat those blues

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